Woman trouble

[Franko]

Sigh.. I have been with the same girl for 2 and a half years now and she is my first serious girlfriend and I am only 20. The problem here is I cant be with only one girl for the rest of my life! For god sakes I am only 20 years old I should be out screwing everything. But dont get me wrong it is not like I dont love her but it just dosent seem like the spark is there anymore. That feeling I used to get is long gone and now she is basically living with me. I dont know if I can take this confined space with no buffer zone for long. Man I dont know what the hell I am going to do.. mabey I should wait till gods devine hand breaks us up or something because I know I definately wont be able to. We dont fight or anything so there is no chance there. What should I do?

[uppitycracker]

Hey man thats exactly what Ive been going through, Ive been with the same girl for about 1 and a half years and I feel like Im wasting what youth I have left. Well anyways we broke up tonight and she moved her **** out already, its hard man but I guess you gotta do what you gotta do, I miss her already and everything makes me think of her which really sucks, but thats lfe. So do what you wanna do, if you think you love her enough to give up these years then stay with her. And trust me dude, not to sound like a ****, but ***** always gets old one way or the other, just think about that.

[mitmaks]

u dorks, you never loved ur girls, if u wanna screw someone else. man grow up dudes, get a life. there only one real love in life.

[uppitycracker]

Man just because you guys cant relate dont get all hostile, and I even said if he does break up with her and sleeps around, at the end of day if he could go back and just be with her he probably would.

And me and my gf have had plenty of problems which is a big reason I feel like Im missing out because I see all these happy people and I want that.

I actually just got done talking it out with my gf, well i shouldnt say that because we are taking a break, but we love each other and want it to work out and honestly now that i have the chance to go out with any girl I want, I dont know if I will, I just want her.

But I have very little sexual experience beyond her, so that is one reason I feel that way sometimes. But I guess you just have to think about whats more important, the women you love or a bustin a nut.

Seriously when you think about it, sex is over rated, once its over your just like ya whatever, its all just a chemical response, your body tricking your brain into mating with the closest hole. But then again thats all love is too, but Id wrather be with someone I love then get around with girls I couldnt care less about.

So ya after some deep thought and talking it over with her Id wrather have her. And theres always righty when Im feeling lonely

[uppitycracker]

I like to think of it as a first quarter life crisis (for lack of a better term). Its the realization that your going to be with the same girl forever, and whether or not thats ok with you or not. I think everyone goes through that at one point in a long term relationship.

[Nd4SpdSe]

Originally posted by uppitycracker:
But I have very little sexual experience beyond her, so that is one reason I feel that way sometimes. But I guess you just have to think about whats more important, the women you love or a bustin a nut.

Seriously when you think about it, sex is over rated, once its over your just like ya whatever, its all just a chemical response, your body tricking your brain into mating with the closest hole. But then again thats all love is too, but Id wrather be with someone I love then get around with girls I couldnt care less about.

Live isnt about sex, and you shouldnt base life, or your relationship on it. Sexual experience is only needed if you need to please a different woman every nite, cause, other that that, no one will know or care how well you can do it, its not the type of experience you put on a resume or anything. At long as your happy and she is, that should be all that matters, but communication is the key, you need to know what she wants/feels and do what you can to make your relationship better. Sex is the extension to a relationship, not the basis for it, and something shared with your significant other, not every other pusy you encounter, cause thats the way to make that spark, that little something extra get board and insignificant real quick.

AS relationships get older, you dont lose that spark, its evolves into something better (as my boss would say). Of course your not gonna have that young-adult-hormone surge for the rest of your life. What happens after that, i couldnt tell you, but the answers you seek relies in your heart and in your head on your shoulders, not the head between your legs

<small>[ October 06, 2003, 02:18 AM: Message edited by: Nd4SpdSe ]</small>

[uppitycracker]

ya your right man, Your boss sounds like a smart guy!haha I think thats the second quote Ive heard from him.

[Franko]

Ok, so I definately wont be able to do it. I talked to her a little last night about us and about how it kind of freaks me out that she is with me ALL the time and never does anything with her friends.. EVER. She never goes out with them or does anything. but anyway so we got to talking and she started getting really upset and I was telling her that I still love her more than anything because I DO! It just dosent make any sense. If I didnt love her I wouldent be with her but I do love her. I get this terrible feeling sometimes about the whole one girl thing forever and it scares me to death but after a while I forget about it. I said to her that she is still only young and if she wanted to be with anyone else now was the time and she started to cry... ohh lord god there is nothing worse. When that happens it is just like "Ohh my god what can I do to get you to stop crying, Ill do anything" So at that point I was just like "ABORT! ABORT! ABORT! BEEP! BEEP! BEEP!"
So I just shut my stupid *** mouth and said nothin else. GOD. Well anyway I gotta go to work because I am allready late.

[Sonicxtacy02]

Originally posted by mitmaks:
u dorks, you never loved ur girls, if u wanna screw someone else. man grow up dudes, get a life. there only one real love in life.

I completely agree... love isnt about how long youve been with someone or what you'll do for someone. It has no age limit and no weekly time limit. If you question whats out there and no what you have at home then youre not in love, youre fooling yourself.

[EBUCKS]

Just be a man! You're not a man if you're under somebody's thumb! If you don't want to be there anymore then you need to tell her that, no matter how much crying she does. It sounds heartless, but it's your happiness that we're talking about here.
I'm 30. I've been there and had the same feelings. You young guys need to sew them wild oats; get some experience under your belt; be men in control of your destiny. And when you've narrowed it down to what you want, find it.

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[Custommx3]

well, Im 26 and I can deffinatley say Ive been there. Ive dated alot of girls in my life, the relationship lasting from 6 months to 4 years. Ive almost married 2 of them. Getting straight to the point, I dont think your really in love with this girl. When you know, you just know. I myslef will be getting married probably withing the next year to my current girl. When I met her I just knew she was the one, and so did she. I cant say I dont look at other girls because I do, Im a man, its my natureal instinct. But when it comes to loving one person and spending the rest of my life with that person, when you know, you just know.

[BADMX3]

i can totally sympathise wi you....

i was only going out with a girl for about 8 months to a year... can't remember how long. Before her i had sort of passing 'practise' girlfriends. every girls target practise lol.

neways she started to get very clingy, possessive, needy and wanted me there all the time. Then she started talking about what i wanted in the near future well i've just gone back to uni... so the next 4 years will be dedicated to that and the car. Then she starts talking about marriage and sprogs i was like
so i had alot of problems neways then we had a pregnancy scare, and everything got too much. My mom just died and i said that's it i need my space. She tried to give me space but i wasn't happy any more the spark had gone >>>so i ended it.

found out she took it really really hard! and we had a big fall out.

My point is man that no one can advise you what to do, everyone makes there own mistakes.
BUT, i'm sure glad i ended it cos in the last 3 weeks i slept with 2 different honey's from uni > and i'm very happy on my own!!!

[Custommx3]

The biggest problem today is noone gives a damn about a relationship and its always about sex. If you base your relationship on sex, you have no idea what love is, nor will you ever have a secure and great relationship with someone until you do.

<small>[ October 06, 2003, 02:39 PM: Message edited by: Custommx3 ]</small>

[The_Great_Tonge]

love is something that will always be there, if your with that special somoene or not. just because you love someone, doesnt mean you have to like them. but for you guys that have been with your girlfriends for 1.5+ years need to think if she is the one. you need to get out and meet other women. because what most people consider love these days is more like lust. and unlike love, lust doesnt last that long